Don’t let the word ‘loner’ confuse you. Loners aren’t people who are lonely, foolish or miserable. On the contrary, they’re the most loyal and intellectual people you’ll ever meet.
Are you a person who doesn’t try to be accepted by everyone else in society and often feels more bored when you’re in the company of many people than when you’re by yourself? Well, if your answer is positive, don’t be upset because being a loner isn’t a setback or a terrible personal trait at all.
We live in a fast-paced world where most people are trying to fit in groups who share the same or similar attitudes, interests, and styles. It’s as if someone’s self-worth and confidence are based on how many people they interact with. What is surprising is that those people who choose to stay out of large groups are immediately labeled as unfriendly, lonely or even weird.
Well, guess what? Nothing of this is true. Loners aren’t unfriendly people and they don’t have difficulties socializing with others. Instead of that, they choose to be alone because they feel more comfortable when they’re on their own.
Instead of enduring the constant pressure other people feel when trying to impress and please others, loners choose to stay alone and enjoy their own company. They don’t have to pretend to be somebody they are not. They are comfortable and happy in their own skin and that’s the only thing which matters.
Additionally, loners don’t need other people’s constant approval or praise as they’re very intellectual, realistic, down to the earth, and they know their real worth. They don’t allow others to shape their happiness.
Loners also enjoy broadening their knowledge of the world. They like reading and exploring new things. They want to understand the world and life, in general, deeply, not just see the surface of it.
Moreover, if you have a loner as a friend, then you must know how faithful they are. They never say or do anything that can betray your trust in them or hurt your feelings. They’re also very careful when they need to make important decisions and over-analyze every situation so as to prevent themselves from making mistakes.
Contrary to most people, loners have no interest in shallow gossip. Their intellectual abilities don’t allow them to deal with idle, mean, and needless talks.
There are two types of loners – the extroverted and the introverted loners.
The extroverted loner has no difficulties socializing or communicating with the people they choose. They can easily make friends and spend time with them without feeling uncomfortable. They choose to be alone because they don’t want spending time with anyone. Instead of that, they carefully choose the person to whom they’re going to devote their time and energy. They would rather be alone than hanging out with people who are selfish, unkind or dishonest. So, if you have a friend who is a loner, congratulations, you’re the lucky one.
The introverted loner is a bit different from the extroverted one. Huge crowds of people, crowded public places, and all sorts of social gatherings easily overwhelm them. They want to be in quiet places or hang out with a considerably smaller number of people they feel comfortable and relaxed with.
So, if you or someone you know are a loner, appreciate it. You’re wise, smart, and faithful. You’re genuine and independent. There isn’t a person who wouldn’t feel content and privileged to be in your company.