“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”, once said the American author Mignon McLaughlin. Long-lasting love is undoubtedly the secret behind all great marriages.
When you marry someone, you become one person with them. You’re two bodies with one soul. You know each other down to the core. You’re related on a deep emotional and soul level.
You’re completely sure that your partner is ‘the one’. This person holds the key to your heart and mind and you don’t let anyone in.
You know and accept each other’s virtues, faults, quirks, and fears. You respect each other’s opinions, choices, preferences, and decisions.
You treat each other as you deserve to be treated and never do anything which could hurt or break the other person’s heart.
You dream about the same things, no matter if they’re kids or a place of living. You work hard together and don’t let anything or anyone shatter your dreams. You join your forces to achieve your dreams and goals.
Nothing is perfect. In your marriage, you can come across a few roadblocks, but you don’t let them tear you apart. You aren’t afraid to deal with all the problems, obstacles and challenges life can throw on your way.
To preserve the stability and the health of your marriage is your top priority.
So, who wouldn’t like to end up in the arms of the person you loved and were deeply passionate about 5 or 6 decades ago?
Who wouldn’t like this perfect journey called marriage to last forever?
I believe we can all agree that marriage plays a big role in our lives and in society in general. Building a strong, emotional bond and spending our lives with another person requires several things: a lot of love, commitment, respect, loyalty, trust, discipline, and sacrifice. Only those married couples who live following all these and keeping the marriage vows as sacred are able to fully enjoy and preserve their marriage.
Well, if you’ve wondered why some marriages last longer than others, the answer is that successfully married couples know how to keep the original flame of their love burn forever.
They know how important is to be grateful. Yeah, that’s right. They’re immensely grateful to each other.
They’re grateful because they have the chance to live and spend time with their soulmate. They show gratitude for everything their partner does. It doesn’t matter how big or small these things are. Every little and apparently ordinary or meaningless thing counts. Bringing coffee and breakfast in bed, going out for lunch, buying flowers or other presents is what shows that the original flame of love hasn’t burnt yet.
Happily married couples work on preserving this flame. They do this by treating each other with affection, patience, tenderness, and understanding. They don’t put their needs first and neglect or forget about those of their partner completely. Selfishness is something they don’t know of.
They feel gratitude for the security, help, and warmth their partner offers.
They’re grateful that they feel carefree and genuinely happy when their partner is around.
They’re grateful to each other because they know both of them will move mountains and fight off dragons just to eliminate all problems and fears of their partner and make them happy.
They’re thankful for the fact that they can count on each other with their lives.
They’re grateful to their partner because they carry each other’s burden on their shoulders.
Their gratitude makes them willing to make sacrifices. They aren’t afraid to sacrifice their own interests and ambitions if they know that will have positive effects on the marriage.
When they’re grateful, they don’t want to live apart from each other. They complement each other and feel alive and happy only when they’re around their partner.
Gratitude is the essence of their marriage.
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