I’m Gradually Learning To Let Go Of The People Who Diminish My Value

What I have tried to do my whole life is to be careful about the way I treat the people I love and care about. Making sure that I respect and accept them for who they are and keep them in my life forever has always been important to me.

Losing the people close to me has always worried and scared me. By striving to be surrounded by them and do things right, I’ve put myself second. Maybe it seems foolish, but I thought that those who were a part of my life were worthy of staying there forever. And the worst thing is that although the people I held dear were around me, often times I felt lonely, afraid and depressed.

It seems I took for granted that all people will love me in the same way I loved them. It just didn’t seem logical that someone wouldn’t reciprocate my feelings.

After a number of situations in which I had to cope with unrequited love, betrayal, loneliness, and sorrow, I understood that there will always be people who won’t love and value me. I realized that keeping them in my life will hurt my feelings more than if I let go of them.

To save myself from emotional pain, I thought that if I could show them what an honest and deep love is, they’ll stop hurting me. Yet, my hopes to bring light and kindness in their lives shattered. My wish to change them didn’t come true.

All this made me feel so weak and unconfident in myself. I didn’t know what to do to get over this unbearable situation. I didn’t know how to treat the people who hurt me deeply. I was left with no choice. I had to let them go.

I realized soon that letting go of people isn’t the most terrible thing in the world or a personal failure. I learned that it’s more important to be surrounded by good and honest people than by plenty of those who are unable to value me.

It was my fault that I let them make me lose faith in and respect for myself. By paying more attention to their words and actions, I forgot to think about my emotional well – being.

You don’t let go of people because you don’t care about them anymore, but because you know they can’t see your value, and you can’t change that. They can’t see your worth because they are simply unable to do that or they don’t want to.

You must be aware that if you find the strength to let go of the dishonest, selfish and manipulative people, your self-respect will find its way back to you. Let go of them and you’ll start feeling more alive and find peace within yourself. By letting go of the people who don’t deserve you, you’ll learn many things which will do you good.

I’m gradually learning too that I do deserve to be loved and valued by other people. I’m learning that the person who will acknowledge my self-worth and accept me for who I am deserves my attention and trust.

I’m learning to treat myself with compassion and respect.

I’m slowly learning to think about me in just the exact way I thought before about those who didn’t deserve my love.

I’m learning to avoid those who make me feel sad, unworthy, angry and afraid.

I’m gradually learning that my worth doesn’t depend on someone’s inability to perceive it. Maybe they’re just unable to see it or they choose not to do so, my worth still won’t decrease.

I’m learning to be thankful for all the things life has offered me and for those who await me.

I’m slowly learning to believe in myself and my future.

I’m learning to enjoy my own company.

I’m learning not to be afraid of letting go of somebody who I know won’t think twice to hurt me.

I’m reminding myself that no matter how hard I try, there will always be people who don’t deserve my kindness, love, and respect.

I’ve decided to step out of the darkness and get opened for new positive experiences. I’ll live life to the fullest without allowing anybody to diminish my value.

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