Where the darkness of the night meets the lightness of the day, two people got immediately attracted to each other. The first one was a highly sensitive, the second- self-centered and manipulative.
An empath and a narcissist fell in love.
Can you imagine what happens when someone whose love is unconditional begins a relationship with someone whose love is sick and selfish?
The final result is nothing but a dangerous ride, stressful and toxic, for the empath.
Empaths are “the healers”. They absorb different emotions and energy vibes. In other words, they feel what other people feel and empathize with them. They want to protect others and heal their wounds.
Narcissists are “the emotionally wounded”. Maybe their feelings got damaged in some period of their childhood, and now they hide their scars seeking constant validation and admiration from others. Good-hearted empaths are here to help them.
At the beginning of the relationship, the empath can’t see the real face of the narcissist. Narcissists wear different masks. The narcissist is ready to go to extremes to convince the empath that their love is unbreakable and eternal, just for the sake of achieving their own goals.
Empaths believe in true love. The empath sees only the good in everyone. Therefore, they fail to see that the narcissist is a blood-thirsty monster who wants to control them with manipulations and lies. Empaths fail to see that narcissists always seek for a victim; they play a dirty game in which they are always the king while the empath is their pawn.
Once a narcissist gets under the skin of the empath, they start to use the empath’s secrets and weaknesses to make them feel weak. When the empath loses their self-confidence, the narcissist becomes the center of their universe. The relationship is all about the narcissist.
The empath believes that they can change the narcissist with their love and care. However, narcissists never change. The empath is a giver, the narcissist- taker. Narcissists always need more but they never give.
When the empath finally wakes up from the vicious circle of the narcissist’s manipulations and lies, they are blamed and called “too emotional”, “crazy”, “drama queens”. The empath gets to the point where not only they get hurt but they feel confused and start to believe that it’s their fault. The empath starts to feel that they’re not worthy of love.
The narcissists feed themselves with empaths’ tears, pain, and suffering. They start to celebrate their victory as they finally have the total control over the empath. If an empath ends a relationship with them, they’ll search for another victim.
How can an empath put an end to this toxic relationship and save themselves from the damage and cruelty of a narcissist?
It is of a great importance for empaths to understand that not everyone has a loving golden heart like them; not everyone who promises to love loves from the bottom of their soul.
Empaths need to realize that even though they want to help people, not everyone deserves their care. It’s not their job to fix people who don’t want to be fixed and think that there’s nothing wrong with the damage they cause.
As soon as they recognize these wicked creatures, these sensitive souls need to know that they always have a choice and are strong enough to walk away from a relationship that damages their overall existence.
But most of all, they should never set for less than they deserve, and they deserve to be treated the way they treat others: with love and respect.
Therefore, they should walk away with a head up high, stronger and wiser than ever before.
Instead of saving them, empaths should save themselves.