He knew exactly what kind of man you needed, so he put his mask of a charming, good-hearted person and went to conquer your heart.
You couldn’t help yourself but fall for his irresistible charm. You gave the keys to your precious heart to a selfish man who saw nothing but himself in his perfection.
A narcissist was the superstar in his show of manipulations and lies! However, the show is over. You left the theater; you’re finally free.
Nevertheless, people may not be always able to see the hidden pain, but behind those eyes that are sparkling with a smile, there are tears and deep scars that twisted your perception of love. You still have love within you, but now, you love differently.
1. You trust no one.
When the narcissist left you crying on the floor, unable to put all the pieces of your broken heart together, you promised yourself that you won’t see only good in people and make the same mistake twice.
Now, you’re secretly afraid of people who swear eternal love to you. The narcissist did everything to convince you that he was the man of your dreams but left you unable to wake up from the nightmare he created.
2. You apologize for everything.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist, you were a victim of his manipulations and lies. He blamed you for everything he was guilty of! He made you think it was always your fault. What did you do?
You found yourself apologizing for everything. Now, you do the same as the narcissist’s toxic behavior and control still has an influence on you.
3. You keep the walls of your heart high and your emotions low.
After your hurtful past, you’re still in pain. You want to protect your soft, fragile heart, so you build high walls around it.
That’s why now, you’re distant, cautious, and you want to take things slow.
4. You don’t know what to expect from your next relationship.
With the narcissist, you never knew what to expect: one day, he was kind and sweet, the next day- mean and aggressive.
He was never with you when you needed him the most! He created a cloud of confusion, an empty space in your soul filled with doubts and unexplainable fears.
5. You unconsciously ruin your chance for happiness.
The narcissist took out of you the last bit of hope and faith. The emotional trauma you’re surviving brings you back to the past.
That’s why you’re overly suspicious and doubt everything! That’s why you’re sabotaging your new relationship! You think good things never happen to you. You’re still blinded by your ex-partner’s poison and can’t see the bright colorful rainbow waiting for you on the other side of doubts and fears.
6. You don’t believe in real love.
While your narcissist made your life sweet at the beginning, he turned your life upside down later. Little he knew about love.
You never felt the real love with him. Now, fairytales suck, and real love is something gone by the wind. You need time to start feeling like yourself again and regain the lost faith in real love.
7. You’re waiting for another storm.
However, with the right man, it won’t happen.
You need a man who will not hesitate to say “I’m sorry” when he is wrong. You need someone who will heal the wounds of your broken heart and make you feel safe and loved.
8. You need a real man.
That kind of man will be proud of the strength of your broken heart and your willingness to move on with your life.
Never give up on love.
You will find the right man and he will never let you fall. He will treat you the way you deserve. He will love you just the way you are.