We all know the saying that love is blind. And it really is. You fall in love with your partner so deeply that you’re unable to notice the signs that show they’re falling out of love.
No one would like to be in a situation like this one. Knowing that your partner has lost interest in you must be one of the most painful experiences you’ll ever have in your life.
It’s very difficult to determine if your significant other has lost interest in you or you’re just imagining stuff. The reason for that is that when we truly love and respect someone, we want to see our relationship flourish, deepen and last longer.
Yet, to continue your relationship while you have your doubts about your partner’s feelings can be a real torture. If your partner’s feelings for you have really started to cool off, get prepared to face the fact that there isn’t much you can do about it. You can’t make someone love you by force. Love is a pure and genuine feeling and always comes naturally.
To save yourself from the nagging doubts and be sure that your partner still loves you, you need to pay close attention to the way he/she treats you.
The following is a list of 8 signs which show that your partner is falling out of love with you:
1. Your partner no longer has time for you.
You used to spend a lot of time together and now everything is changed. The signs of this behavior are pretty obvious. You notice that your partner spends more time at work or out with their friends. He neglects and ignores your needs, plans, and wishes. He avoids spending time with you by inventing some lame excuses that he’s too busy or tired.
Yeah, they can be busy, we all get that, but if they don’t make time for you in their tight schedule, it’s an unmistakable sign that your partner is falling out of love with you.
2. Your partner no longer shows signs of love.
Everyone knows how important is showing feelings of affection and love in a relationship.
You can’t help but notice if your partner doesn’t show such feelings to you. You’ll immediately know that the romance is gone when it’s been quite long since you spent time cuddling and kissing or you had a date night.
If this continues to happen for a longer period of time, it means that it’s time you cut yourself loose.
3. Your partner starts to behave selfishly.
If you notice that you’re the only one who cares about the emotions, needs, wishes, and problems of the other person in the relationship, you can be sure that your partner is selfish.
They only care about meeting their own needs and goals and they won’t take yours into consideration.
Moreover, don’t be surprised if you see that your partner is the one who decides how you’re going to spend the weekend or what you’re going to have for lunch.
Last but not least, it won’t be a strange thing if your partner doesn’t put time, energy and commitment into the relationship as much as you do.
4. Your partner doesn’t make a commitment to you.
If your partner has fallen out of love with you, he’ll never put a label on your relationship. They won’t see you as their girlfriend or boyfriend. The fact that your partner doesn’t show any signs that they want to be a part of a committed relationship or take it to the next level means that they aren’t interested in you and your relationship.
Instead of waiting for them to end the relationship, maybe it’s time you took the big step-let go of your partner and move on.
5. Your partner starts to argue more often.
Quarrels are part of any relationship. They keep the relationship healthy and alive.
Yet, if your partner is constantly picking fights with you, especially when there’s no reason for it, it can be a problem. You should watch out for other things too. For example, if your partner often yells and shouts at you or you have to endure their deliberate and cruel insults, you should take this as a clear indication that they have lost interest in you.
6. You think your partner is hiding something from you.
The basis of a meaningful and healthy relationship is trust. So, if you suspect that your partner withholds significant information from you, lies to you or cheat on you, why will you think that they’re in love with you?
If your partner loves you dearly, they will never think about lying to you or doing indecent things behind your back. If they’re dishonest and unfaithful, it means they neither respect nor love you.
7. Your partner’s future plans don’t include you.
A clear sign that your partner doesn’t love you anymore is if he makes plans for the future and you aren’t a part of them. This isn’t something that a person who really loves and cares about other person’s feelings would do.
So, if your partner doesn’t imagine you by his side in the future, it means you’ve lost importance to them and you are no longer their priority.
8. Your partner doesn’t want to change his/her negative behavior.
If your significant other refuses to change their bad habits, despite the fact that you have often and kindly asked them to, you should know that they don’t care about you at all.
If your partner’s love for you was real, they’d never allow anyone, let alone themselves, to hurt you. If your partner doesn’t want to become a better version of themselves and treat others better, maybe you should just decide to respect their decision and let go of them.
“Effort is a reflection of interest. If you constantly feel like you have to ask for “more” then you’re ignoring the obvious.” – Rob Hill Sr.
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