Kind, well-mannered, compassionate, and caring…Your partner is the most wonderful person you have ever met. Sometimes, they act in a weird way, though. They blame you and tell lies. But, you keep telling yourself that nobody is perfect.
Don’t fool yourself.
If you have that strange feeling deep inside, don’t push it away. Listen to what your gut has to tell you because it never lies. Don’t get caught in their manipulative trap! Open your eyes and see what they hide behind that hypnotizing mask of sweet gestures and kindness.
Here are 8 signs that your partner is a serious narcissist in disguise.
1. They are master manipulators.
You catch them lying as soon as they open their mouth. They love to lie. A narcissist will tell you a lie and then cover it with another while thinking about another one…it’s a never-ending circle of lies and manipulations.
Moreover, they blame you for everything. It’s always your fault. A narcissist will never admit their lies because they are born to be perfect; they never make a mistake and are always right. Therefore, you will never see them apologize.
2. They put their needs before yours.
In the beginning, they will be your hero, always there when you need them. That’s only the beginning, however.
A narcissist wants to be the center of attention. It’s always about them; their wants and needs. They will care about you only when they need something from you. A narcissist doesn’t know about empathy. They never put themselves in other people’s shoes. They hurt your feelings and enjoy your pain leaving you helpless and alone.
3. They are like a chameleon.
Narcissists adapt to each situation in order to survive and make other people trust them. A narcissist always plays on the “charm” card. They shine with a positive energy to sweep you off your feet.
Narcissists hide their true face behind their masks: a mask of happiness, sadness, fear, surprise… They can laugh when they’re sad and cry when they’re happy; they will go to extremes if they need to.
4. They desperately need your compliments.
Complimenting a narcissist is never enough! They want to be the center of constant admiration. A narcissist will convince you that the whole world revolves around them-those magnificent creatures.
They need you to boost their grandiose ego. Moreover, narcissists always seek for excitement; they ‘re drama queens who feed themselves with scandals and gossips.
5. They’re the one who treats you poorly but declares themselves as the victim.
A narcissist sucks the last drop of your blood. They leave you with no self-confidence, self-respect, and with bare identity.
Nevertheless, they want to act like you are the bad person: the one who is always doing wrong to them. They are the saints and you’re the one torturing them. Narcissists want other people to feel their pain and comfort them while they are pouring crocodile tears around.
6. They flirt with others.
A narcissist has no idea about love and commitment. They see themselves as survivors who need victims to succeed. That’s it. No caring. No respect. No feelings. Nothing.
They flirt with and compare you to others trying to make you jealous. In fact, these wicked monsters want to confuse you, so you can get more attached to them.
7. They look gorgeous.
At least, they think they do and will convince you in that for sure. They follow trends and take a great care of their physical appearance. Narcissists tend to be perfectly perfect.
So, if they’re spending lots of time and money on their looks and you catch them with a mirror in their hands whenever they are around you, there’s no doubt they’re a narcissist.
8. They get mean if you criticize them.
A narcissist wants to be adored by everyone. They fear what other people think about them and are sensitive to criticism. If you dare criticize, you automatically become “the jealous one”.
If you say or do something they don’t like and differs from their “valuable” opinion, a narcissist will see it as an attack. They will blame you for not understanding them. A narcissist will get mean and try to defend themselves or attack you.
Do you recognize any of these signs in your partner? If you do, make sure narcissist never change. Whether you will stay in the relationship or leave, it’s up to you.
“Sometimes it seems that the louder someone claims sainthood, the bigger the horns they are hiding.” – Steve Maraboli
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