When I look back over my life, one regret continuously pops up in my mind – not spending more time with my family. I wish I saw, talked with and was there for them when they needed me the most.
And it hurts now. It hurts to the bone. What’s done is done. I can’t get time back.
I’m sure you’ll agree that there isn’t a person who doesn’t have these powerful and sad feelings, called regrets, which have a profound effect on our soul and mind. You regret not saying ‘I love you’ more to your family members, partner, and friends. You regret not taking the great opportunities to accomplish your goals and pursue your dreams. You regret making some terrible mistakes and hurting the people you loved and who didn’t deserve to be hurt. You regret not doing the things that could make you and others happy.
In what follows, there are 8 prevalent regrets people have and if you happen to have some or all of them make sure you learn from your past mistakes and use your time wisely in the future.
Here they are:
1. Not showing your love in an open and honest manner to your loved ones.
Showing your love to people you hold dear is what makes you feel emotionally complete and it’s something that means to them a lot. You never know how much time you’ll spend with them. So, if you love them, tell or show it to them. If something worries you or is important, share it with them. You deserve to feel inner peace and stability and they deserve to know too that there’s someone out there who honestly loves and cares about them.
2. Not spending more time with the right people.
You spend your days thinking and worrying about fulfilling your daily responsibilities on time and you focus all your time and energy on them. I’m sure that in 10 years’ time, you don’ t want to regret not devoting quality time to the people who inspire love, happiness, and peace in you. Find ways to get rid of your unnecessary habits and make more time for those who make you feel better about yourself. If they have your attention and know they aren’t just one of your responsibilities, it’s what they’ll appreciate the most.
3. Trying too much to impress others and forgetting what is important to you.
The only person you should try to impress is yourself. In 10 years, you aren’t going to worry whether someone liked your hairstyle or the dress you wore at your friend’s wedding. Instead of trying to prove to others who you are or what you can do, put that effort into doing things which can help you grow at a personal and professional level. If you’re genuinely satisfied with yourself, others will be as well.
4. Letting other people determine your self – worth.
As the name itself suggests, your self-worth is in no other person but yourself. Don’t allow other people’s perceptions of you to define who you are. They’ll often have a negative image of you just because you remind them of a problematic and dishonest person they know. The way others see you has nothing do with who you are and what you carry in your heart.
5. Spending too much time waiting and overanalyzing opportunities instead of taking action.
“You only regret the things you didn’t do” can be a cliché but it really works well in this case. You tend to stay passive and do nothing whenever you have to make an important decision or achieve a difficult goal. You waste your days and postpone action by making an excuse that you’re waiting for a better opportunity. Well, the right opportunity isn’t something that is dropped aside your door but you have to find it for yourself. Decide what your goals are and start taking little steps every day, and you’ll be surprised to see how close you’ll get to them.
6. Directing your attention to your failures, and not opportunities.
You’ve made mistakes, failed, and had your heart broken many times, but we’ve all been there, right? Yet, you have also achieved many goals, visited places, experienced new things, given and received love. Well, that’s what counts, not your failures. Don’t see your failures as a setback and impediment to your happiness, but learn from them. In this way, you’ll know what things to avoid in the future. You have to understand that you often have to fail and get hurt many times before you achieve success.
7. Allowing feelings of uncertainty to paralyze you.
Life is full of risks and nothing is certain. It’s your fear of uncertainty that can actually make you regret many things in 10 years’ time. If you decide not to accept a job just because you aren’t sure if you’re going to like it or be successful at, you’ll end up wondering until the end of your life what might have happened if you’d taken the chance. Pluck up the courage and embrace every opportunity life offers you.
8. Playing the victim role for a longer time.
Playing the victim won’t make others treat you differently. You’ve experienced many bad things in your life but that isn’t a reason to feel sorry for yourself all the time and prevent yourself from meeting your goals and wishes. Don’t let your past take you into its grip and make you a victim of yourself.