“I’m sorry.” It does sound so powerful, doesn’t it? Do you often feel the need to use these words?
Yeah, the ability to apologize for your mistakes and wrongdoings is a positive characteristic. It shows that you’re aware of your behavior, want to make things right, and care about other people’s feelings. Your apologies reveal that you’re compassionate and considerate, but…
There is one big BUT. The thing is that there are situations when you must carefully think if you should apologize or not.
As I can guess you all already know that the majority of people have the tendency to criticize others. Moreover, they enjoy doing this. Sounds familiar, right? Well, they do that out of jealousy, envy or simply because they have very low self-esteem. They feel free to criticize the clothes you wear, the way you behave, who you date, the choices you make, and the list is endless.
You should ask yourself: is it worth apologizing for these things? If all this is what makes you happy, why would you bother saying “I’m sorry” for them?
You should remember that the only thing which is important is what makes you feel happy and content. It’s not the way other people see, think or talk about you.
So, instead of apologizing for your choices, be the master of your own life. Don’t seek the approval and reassurance of others. Act as your heart tells you. Live your life the way you desire.
The following is a list of 8 important things you should never say “I’m sorry” for:
1. Showing your emotions.
Expressing emotions has become the thing which people pay the least attention to. We often act like robots. We don’t feel comfortable showing our feelings to others, and therefore, we hide them and behave in a stiff or cold way.
Well, you should never bottle your emotions up. If you feel like screaming, scream. If you’re really sad and want to cry, knock yourself out. Don’t be ashamed to show how you feel.
2.Your past life.
We all have made mistakes at some point in our past and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Many people will try to criticize you for your past mistakes but don’t you ever let this bring you down. Feeling remorse, self-pity and living in the past won’t bring you any good. Instead, try to embrace your past as it is, learn from your mistakes, and move on with your life. You don’t owe anybody an apology.
3. Making yourself a number one priority in your life.
If you stand at the top of your priority list, it doesn’t mean you’re a selfish, self-centered, and conceited person. It just means that you want the best for you. You put your health, needs, career, wishes, and emotional life before everything else. If you don’t focus on making yourself happy and complete, how can you make others feel in the same way?
4. Allowing yourself me time.
Yeah, we all need time and space in which we can be on our own, put our thoughts together or relax. With all our daily responsibilities, it seems like we can’t find time for ourselves.
You need to spend some time on your own so as to think about your needs, problems, opportunities, and solutions.
The unfortunate thing is that there are many people who try to please others. They care more about other people’s wants and problems than their own.
So, remember one thing for the next time someone invites you to go out and spend time with them and you have more important things on your mind: don’t be afraid to reject the invitation and use your time more effectively. For example, you can do the things which make you happy.
5.Following your biggest dreams.
We all have dreams and we want to fulfill them. Your dreams are your goals and aspirations.
If others believe that your dreams aren’t realistic, don’t let this discourage you. You know you’re capable of accomplishing them and you shouldn’t let anyone distract or stop you from doing it.
Your dreams are your life. Make sure you work hard to fulfill them and don’t let anybody ruin them.
6. Having an optimistic attitude towards life.
We live in a fast-paced world in which we don’t have control over things. We’re faced with tough situations and challenges every day. If your high optimism is what makes other people say you act like you aren’t living in this world but on another planet, don’t let this discourage you.
In order to succeed at a personal and professional level, you need to withstand all the stress and pressure you face every day. Having a positive outlook on life is the road to success.
7. Dating the person you love.
Who can tell you who to date? You make your choices on your own. Others can only agree with your decision or let go. They don’t have any rights to tell you who you should choose as your boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you truly love that person and they make you happy, don’t be afraid to date them.
8.Going against the mainstream.
You live in accordance with your moral and social values and principles. If others disagree with your codes of behavior, it’s their problem. Everyone should mind their own business.
Don’t be surprised if people start telling you what and how to do certain things. They can be doing that because they envy you or see you as an obstacle to their success.
Live your life the way you want. If you aren’t planning to get married or have kids, don’t do that. Remember that you don’t owe anything to anybody.