8 Clear Signs Which Reveal Untrue Love In A Relationship

I believe we all can agree that one of our biggest dreams is to find and fall in love with the right person. The person that will make our heart beat like crazy and our eyes beam with happiness. The person who will make our bodies tremble every time we see them and feel their touch.

True love takes a lot of time to take shape. It starts with chemistry and physical attraction at the beginning, but to keep it alive it needs patience, commitment, loyalty, trust, and respect.

But what happens when you find out that your Mr. /Mrs. Right is actually not the right person for you? Will you be ready to cope with all the disappointment, anger and shattered hopes that will come out as a result of this?

People get into a relationship with someone because they feel good when they’re around that person. So, being with someone whose love isn’t true will be not only one of the most unpleasant and hurtful experiences you can ever have in your life but it can tear you apart.

Recognizing if your partner’s love is true isn’t easy but it isn’t that hard either. All you have to do is pay attention to the way they treat you and look for changes in their behavior. If their love for you is true, you’ll always be able to feel the chemistry, spontaneity, and connection between you two. If this isn’t the case and your partner is becoming judgmental, irresponsible and detached from you, you’ll know the answer – the magic is gone. Your partner’s love is untrue.

So, if you can find the following 8 signs of your partner’s behavior, you can be sure that their love is untrue.

Here they are:

1. They seem to forget that you exist.

When you truly love someone, that person is always on your mind. They can be in the most remote place in the world, and yet, you think about them.

So, how can someone forget about you if you’re beside them? They don’t have to do big things to show they are aware that you’re there. This can be achieved by doing even the simplest things and not forgetting the smallest details. For example, bringing you a cup of coffee and breakfast in bed or helping you with the chores once in a while can really show they know you ’re there and care about you.

Additionally, if your partner is more focused on their daily responsibilities and spending time with their friends or family members, you can be sure you aren’t one of their top priorities.

2. The chemistry is gone.

The chemistry between you two was the first thing that connected you. It was the thing which made your relationship full of life, energy, and passion. Yet, it’s not something that will stay in the relationship forever. To maintain the chemistry, you have to work really hard for it. If your partner doesn’t try to keep your mutual vibration and energy alive, then they’re not experiencing true love.

3. They don’t feel happy when they see you.

How can you not be happy and content to see the person you love? If your soulmate is far away from you, you’ll be longing to see them. The distance won’t be an impediment to your love. So, if your partner doesn’t seem to bother too much whether they’re going to see you or not or if they’re completely indifferent to your presence, then their love is far from being true.

4. They don’t give you compliments.

Your significant other doesn’t need to give you a thousand of compliments every day to show that you’re important to them. They should know that by giving you sincere compliments, they actually acknowledge they’re happy with you.

Yet, if your partner doesn’t occasionally compliment you, it’s a sign that their feelings have certainly changed. If their love isn’t real they’ll never remember to tell you how beautiful, smart, and precious you are, and how lucky they are to have you in their life. They’ll never bother to cheer you up with small words of praise when you’re down in the dumps.

5. They are judgmental.

A clear sign that your partner doesn’t truly love you is when they’re too judgmental. Their constant, harsh and often unjustified criticism poisons your love and mind as well. Your partner never bothers to show understanding, and support and encourage you when you mess things up or you’re going through a difficult time.

6. They make you feel insecure.

What other signs do you need that your partner’s love isn’t real? This person makes you afraid to speak your mind and tell them how you feel. You are afraid that if you express your emotions,  opinions, ideas, and wishes openly they’ll lose their temper and start shouting at and insulting you. If this is the case, then you’re definitely going in the wrong direction.

7. You tend to explain their actions to others.

If your friends and family are able to see the way your partner treats you, how can’t you? Are you’re overwhelmed by their frequent questions: ‘Why aren’t you spending your birthday together?’

‘Why didn’t he/she invite you to their cousin’s wedding?’

‘Why didn’t he/she take you to the hospital and let you go there alone?’

Constantly justifying and explaining your partner’s actions to them really shows that the things they’re doing aren’t normal in a relationship.  Having doubts about the actions of your beloved is highly unacceptable and a proof that their love can’t be true.

8. You are not a part of their future.

If your partner isn’t committed to you, don’t expect that you’ll be a part of their dreams and plans about the future. You’re wondering why your significant other doesn’t talk to you about that big house you’re going to live in one day or about going to the countries you’ve always wanted to visit. Well, your partner ’s love isn’t genuine and it’s pretty normal for them not to include you in their plans.

Image: Kevin Biberbach