Having an argument with sociopaths is an unbearable experience. In order to satisfy their need for dominance and power, they can twist the meaning of words, lie to you, and blame you for all sorts of negative things.
They’re sneaky chameleons who will manipulate you without showing any signs of responsibility, mercy, and regret. They have many faces and they can use them to fit a different purpose.
When they have nothing smart to say while they’re talking to you, they’ll rely on cheap lies, exaggerating, and offending in order to win the argument and put you in a defensive position.
Make sure you stay away from them if you don’t want them to sap your energy and ruin your day.
The following 7 signs show that you’re arguing with a sociopath:
1. They are pathological liars.
The chain of their lies is endless. To hide their lies and make themselves look innocent, they’ll invent many other blatant lies. A sociopath won’t bother to look for reasonable arguments to justify themselves, but they’ll continue shamelessly lying to you in your face. They’ll come up with false excuses only to justify themselves and shift the blame onto you. They’ll put you in a powerless position and accuse you of making a fuss and needless tension.
2. They will label you with their bad traits.
To win an argument, a sociopath will project his/her atrocious personal qualities on you. Sociopaths are aware of how awful personality they have and they’ll use that against you. In this way, they’ll trick you into behaving hysterically while they’ll be the ones who are acting rationally and kindly all the time.
To get what they want, sociopaths will act like they don’t remember anything they said or did before. For example, if they once told you that you’re useless, they can take advantage of this right away. They’ll suggest they only wanted to help you become more aware of your worth and boost your self-confidence. They’ll try to manipulate, confuse you, and put thoughts into your mind so that you start having doubts about your memory, intelligence, and even sanity. In this way, they’ll turn you into an easy prey they can control easily.
4. They will provoke you.
Provoking is an easy way for a sociopath to make you look and sound like the craziest person on the planet. They know what things can easily provoke you and they won’t miss a chance to trigger your reaction to it. For example, they can tell you that you shouldn’t be with your boyfriend/girlfriend or hang out with some friend of yours and that, my friend, will do the job. You’ll start acting nervously and even hysterically, thereby enabling them to play the role of a victim for having to deal with an emotionally unstable person, i.e. you.
5. They make you emotionally numb.
It’s not a secret that sociopaths have an abnormal behavior. If you’re used to feeling sad, worried or angry when you’re around someone who feels in the same way, trust me, you’ll feel nothing when you’re arguing with this sneaky monster. Yet, be careful because this can have a damaging effect on your emotions and overall mental health.
6. They try to turn you against other people.
“Keep your friends close and your enemies closer” is a saying which works really well for sociopaths. They will try to make you confront people who you normally wouldn’t so as to gain total control over you and the argument. They’ll make you think and talk bad stuff about someone who doesn’t deserve anything of it. In this way, a sociopath will redirect your whole attention and energy to another person, thereby making both of you his/her victims.
7. They will continue relying on circular arguments.
If sociopaths are left with no other ways to win an argument (although that’s something hard to believe), they’ll keep returning to the same points over and over again. They’ll repeat the same things, making the argument ineffective. In the end, you might even forget what caused the argument. Of course, you’ll end up feeling confused and you’ll try to justify your words, but it’ll be useless as the sociopath has already won the battle by sapping all of your energy.
So, if you wonder what you can do to deal with these sneaky chameleons, the best advice is to avoid arguing with them. You’ve probably realized so far that you can’t change their mindset or reach a solution. They ’ll use your emotions, vulnerability, and fears to put you in a defensive position and get what they want.