Love is the most powerful emotion in the human existence. People are searching for love as long as they are alive. Finding real love is never ending process and is an integral part of our lives. But did you know that love doesn’t happen only once in our life? We feel the power of love three times in our lifetime, in three different ways.
First love: The idealistic one
As kids, we grew up under the influence of fairy tales and the idea of a perfect world. That is why our first love is idealistic. Idealistic love is the definition of the idea of love; how we imagined it during the process of growing up. This is the less painful experience in our lives and it is only children’s vision of being a grown-up. Children learn from their parent’s love experience. Parents should teach their children that every love is different, and every person experiences love in a different way. Daniel L. Buccino, a clinical social worker and co-founder of the Baltimore Psychotherapy Institute explains: “The most important relationship in any family is the marital one, and the best thing parents can do for their children is to love one another”.
Second one: The lesson
The second one is more realistic than the first one. It is usually the lesson of our lives that we will always remember. In this part of our life, we face the ugly truth that love can hurt. And that love doesn’t always have a happy ending. We learn that people are not that honest as we thought they are. Sometimes they can be manipulative, dishonest and cruel. We need a long time to move on and heal our broken heart. After the healing process, we realize that it is just a part of our lives and that behind every bad experience there is a lesson we can learn.
If we don’t feel the pain, we won’t be able to feel the beauty of love. If we don’t touch the bottom, we will never reach the stars. And we won’t have the most important experience in our life.
Third love: The real one
This is the love you never see it coming. After you reached the bottom, it is time for the most beautiful experience in your life. You will find your real love, so different from all ideas of love and how it supposed to look. The best part is that someone will accept you for who you truly are, not for someone you might become. It will seem like all of your problems disappeared, life is worth living and love is everywhere around you.
These three stages of love will turn you into the person you’ll become. Sometimes it is normal to be disappointed and to think that you will never find the love of your life. As you can see it takes time and patience, but one day it will come, and it will be the best experience of your life. Something that never ends. And you will be grateful because no matter how bad the previous experiences were, you are finally living the best version of your life. It is even better than you ever thought it would be. The true love will erase all bad memories from your heart. So, keep your heart open for love and the love will come. The real love is never planned. It comes in our life unexpected and changes us forever.
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